Why did Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck really break up? Their fairytale marriage faltered after a major mistake by the singer led to chaos.
Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck‘s marriage, once hailed as a modern fairytale.
However, their marriage has fallen apart amid a series of missteps and personal conflicts.
The insider also revealed that their union was fraught with issues from the start.
The publicization of private matters
One of the critical issues that led to the breakdown of Lopez and Affleck’s marriage was Lopez’s tendency to publicize their private life.
Jennifer Lopez, 55, filed for divorce from Ben Affleck, 52, on Tuesday, listing April 26 as their date of separation.
This came after months of speculation about their troubled relationship.
Additionally, a significant misstep was Lopez’s decision to showcase private aspects of their relationship in her documentary.
In The Greatest Love Story Never Told, Ben Affleck discovered that Lopez had shared his personal love letters.
These letters, which Affleck had held onto during his 13-year marriage to Jennifer Garner. It was also used as inspiration for Lopez’s album.
According to the report, Ben Affleck was reportedly “taken aback” by Lopez’s actions.
He had previously expressed his preference for keeping personal matters private.
In a 2021 interview with the Wall Street Journal, Ben said: ‘One of the harder lessons that I have learned is that it’s not wise to share everything with the world.
‘There are some things which are private and intimate and have meaning in terms of their intimacy by dint of the fact that they’re not shared with the rest of the world.
Additionally, he valued privacy and saw the intimate nature of personal correspondence as sacred.
The revelation that Lopez had shown the letters to musicians for inspiration was a point of contention.
Affleck remarked, “My book that I had given her was down there. She’s like ‘I’ve been reading it to people. This is kind of the inspiration and I’ve been showing them the book.’”
The pair also had conflicting views on privacy.
According to sources, Lopez’s approach to their relationship starkly contrasted with Affleck’s desire for privacy.
While Lopez chose to broadcast their love story, including private letters, Affleck was dismayed by this breach of intimacy.
He felt that their private matters, particularly the letters he had gifted her, should have remained undisclosed.
In the documentary, Lopez proudly displayed the book of letters.
While, it was described as ‘every letter and every letter’ that we wrote to each other from 20 years ago and today.
This public sharing was perceived by Affleck as a betrayal of the privacy he valued.
In the film, Ben was ‘taken aback’ upon discovering that his private love letters had been rifled through by her musicians. J-Lo had given these letters to them as inspiration for her next album.
Then, he told the camera: ‘My book that I had given her was down there. She’s like “I’ve been reading it to people. This is kind of the inspiration and I’ve been showing them the book.”
‘I was like you’ve been showing all the musicians all those letters… and they were like “Yeah we call you Pen Affleck.”
‘And I was like “oh my god.”
The marriage of Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez
Lopez and Affleck first got engaged in late 2002 but called off the engagement in 2004.
Additionally, Lopez subsequently married and divorced Marc Anthony, with whom she shares 16-year-old twins, Max and Emme.
Affleck married Jennifer Garner in 2005, and they divorced in 2018 after a separation beginning in 2015.
They share three children: Violet, 18, Seraphina, 15, and Samuel, 12.