A mother on TikTok sparked a debate by explaining why she won’t leave her daughter alone with male relatives.
A recent TikTok video by a mother named Aubrey, who uses the handle @theorganicmami, has sparked significant online debate.
The video focuses on her parenting decisions, especially regarding her daughter’s interactions with male relatives.
Aubrey’s firm stance on not leaving her daughter alone with male family members has sparked a mix of support and backlash from social media users.
The young mother made headlines for raising children’s approach
In the video, Aubrey shared her parenting approach, outlining several rules she plans to enforce for her children.
She expresses her intention to treat her daughter and son equally, ensuring that they both adhere to the same set of guidelines.
Among these rules is the prohibition of sleepovers, even with family members.
She would never leave her daughter alone with male relatives
Aubrey also mandates that her daughter will never be left alone with a male relative, no matter their relationship.
“No sleepovers, not even with family members. And she will never be left alone with a male.
I don’t care if you’re the grandparent, the uncle, or the cousin,” she said in the video.
“For instance, me letting my son go out late but not my daughter because it’s too dangerous for a woman,
I’m just going to treat them both the same,” she added.
No secrets are allowed in her family
Furthermore, Aubrey emphasizes the importance of open communication within the family.
She asserted that her children would not be allowed to keep secrets from her and her husband.
She also sets boundaries for how adults should interact with her daughter, emphasizing that physical affection should not be forced.
“Secrets will not be kept from your parents.
And if you’re one of those people now saying ‘I’ll give you candy when your mum’s not here, just don’t tell her’,
That’s the quickest way to never see us again,” Aubrey emphasized.
Child’s autonomy and emotions must be respected.
Aubrey insists that her daughter’s autonomy and emotions must be respected.
“She doesn’t have to kiss you, hug you, or sit on your lap just because you asked her to and because you’re a relative and haven’t seen her in a long time,”
“My daughter doesn’t have to respect you if you don’t also respect her.
As a child she still will have opinions and emotions and she is allowed to feel a certain way,” the mother concluded.
The self-empowerment
In addition to these guidelines, Aubrey plans to homeschool her daughter. Furthermore, she wants to explore holistic healthcare options before resorting to conventional medicine.
She aims to instill in her daughter a sense of self-empowerment, teaching her to stand up for herself, set boundaries, and express her opinions freely.
“I am teaching her to stand up for herself, set boundaries and say no,” the mother claimed.
Social media reaction
The reactions to Aubrey’s parenting style have been divided.
While some individuals commend her for prioritizing her daughter’s safety and well-being.
Others criticize her for potentially depriving her child of typical childhood experiences, such as sleepovers.
Not all men are good (same with women) so if she does this as precautionary measure, I can’t blame her, one user agreed.
As a physician who has seen the worst of humanity, I fully endorse her decision.
Most of the molesters are people who are trusted by the parents. Male children are as vulnerable as female children in this regard, a physician also agreed.
Her Kid. Her Choice, the third user commented.
“I’m not sure why there are divided opinions; however, most abuse happens by a relative.
For instance, I myself was sexually abused by my half-brother for years while everyone else in the house slept. Additionally, another person shared a similar experience,” someone wrote.