A TikTok video has sparked a lively debate on social media about when parents should stop buying Christmas presents for their children.
While many agree that the magic of Christmas fades as kids grow up, opinions are divided on when to ease up on the presents.
When should parents stop buying gifts for their adult children?
Marty and Nikki, the parents featured in the video, reached out to other parents for their thoughts.
They wanted to know when other parents start slowing down on buying gifts for their adult children.
Marty and Nikki have three adult children—aged 29, 23, and 22—and several children-in-law and grandchildren.
Despite their growing family, the couple continued to buy gifts for everyone. However, this year, their adult kids suggested doing a Secret Santa for the first time.
The dilemma of buying christmas presents for adult children?
Nikki expressed that it felt strange not to buy individual gifts for each child. “It makes me really happy to see them open 10 things each. I love buying them gifts,” she said. However, she wonders how long she can continue this tradition.
Marty added that they’ve always supported their kids in other ways, such as helping with weddings, houses, and baby showers.
But this year’s shift to a Secret Santa system for the adults marks the first time they won’t be buying gifts for everyone.
Parents share their opinions on social media
Other parents quickly shared their thoughts on the topic. Some feel strongly about continuing the tradition of giving gifts well into adulthood. However, others feel it’s time to scale back.
For some parents, gifting continues well into their children’s 30s.
One person said: I still make Easter baskets for my adult children, so I’m not sure I’m the one to ask.
A second wrote: We stopped last year at 25-23-20. The older two are married. We started paying for a family vacation for all instead of buying Christmas and birthday gifts. Memories are priceless!
While a third commented: My mom still gives us gifts and stockings at 53, 50 and 48. We are all very self sufficient but it makes her happy.
Another added: Never stopped. 5 kids, 4 married with 6 grandkids. Gifts and time are my love language.
Someone else said: I haven’t. Mine is 27 and I spend more on her now than ever. She’s my only child and I will spoil her until I’m dead.
32, 23, 22 and a grandbaby. I’ve decided this year is the last. It’s not joyful asking for lists from my adult kids. From here on out we’ll use the money for a family trip for as long as we can do it. Another user added.
As children grow older, the question of when to stop buying Christmas presents becomes a personal decision for many parents.
Some continue to give generously, while others scale back or opt for new traditions like Secret Santa or experience-based gifts.
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Ultimately, the decision is shaped by family dynamics and the desire to maintain the holiday spirit.