On social media, many viewers were stunned after a viral video captured a moment showing a woman taking over her male friend’s dating app and facing unexpected challenges.
A TikToker, known as ok.jo.anna, recently conducted a fascinating experiment on the Hinge dating app.
Pretending to be her male friend, Pete, she sought to understand his dating struggles. What she discovered left her stunned and, in her own words, “more depressed than ever.”
A woan took man’s dating app to see what it was says
On the TikTok platform, a user who goes by @ok.jo.anna shared a video revealing the unexpected challenges she faced after taking over a man’s dating app.
Initially, the woman believed dating on apps was easy, insisting Pete must be doing something wrong.
To test her theory, Pete allowed her to create and manage a Hinge account on his behalf. For three days, she experienced the app as a man, engaging with women and attempting to secure matches.
Her confidence quickly gave way to frustration. She admitted, “I thought it would be simple, but it’s incredibly challenging.”
The Struggles of online dating as a man
After just a few days, the TikToker’s perception of dating apps changed dramatically. She described feeling rejected and disheartened by the lack of responses, even from users she considered less compatible.
“Pete is about a six,” she explained, “but I was so desperate I was liking the 2s and 3s, and even they didn’t like me back.” This experience led her to question the dynamics of dating apps and their impact on both men and women.
Her temporary foray into Pete’s shoes caused her to feel disillusioned, stating, “I’m starting to hate women, and I’m more depressed than ever.”
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Social media reactions to her revealations.
The experiment sparked widespread discussion online, with many men expressing gratitude for her newfound empathy.
One person said: Look up Norah Vincent, author of self made man. She ran the same sort of experiment.
A second wrote: Don’t worry it gets worse. When you do match it’ll be dry and you’ll get ghosted.
While a third commented: If you’re losing it after 3 days, imagine 30 years.
Another added: It gets worse. Pete will land a date, drop $200 (because coffee dates are a non-starter), and never hear from her again.
Someone one else said: Make sure you send this to all your homegirls so they see the reality.
Try being under 5’9. It’s even worse. Another user added.
The TikToker’s honesty resonated with male users who felt validated by her insights. Her candid acknowledgment of the difficulties men face in online dating provided a rare moment of understanding between genders.
Lessons learned from the experiment
The experience was more emotionally depressing than ever after taking over a man’s dating app, highlighting the challenges both men and women face in the dating world.
Her willingness to step into someone else’s perspective highlighted the need for empathy and understanding.
So, online dating may not be perfect, but recognizing the struggles on both sides could pave the way for more meaningful connections.