On social media, many viewers stunned after a viral video showed Woman refused to get out of car on first date after man took her to Cheesecake Factory
Woman sparks debate after refusing to get out of car on first date
On social media, a user, who goes by @moniquelsantos09 shared her first date on Tiktok. Alicia’s actions on a first date have gone viral, sparking debate online.
The incident unfolded when she refused to exit the car after arriving at The Cheesecake Factory.
The video has since been shared widely on TikTok, amassing over eight million views. In the clip, Alicia sits in the passenger seat, clearly upset when the couple arrives at the restaurant.
Alicia refuses to leave the car after seeing the restaurant
Alicia criticizes the choice of The Cheesecake Factory, calling it “embarrassing.” She locks the car doors, refusing to exit.
Jay, her date, tries to reassure her by offering to open her door, but Alicia remains adamant. She insists that a woman like her cannot be seen at a chain restaurant like Cheesecake Factory.
Jay explains that they had originally planned for a different restaurant, but Alicia’s late arrival had caused them to miss the reservation.
Then Alicia demands a better restaurant option
Alicia interrupts Jay, asking him if there’s another restaurant she would feel comfortable in. She says, “Look at me. I cannot go into The Cheesecake Factory. I will die, that’s embarrassing.”
Jay, remaining calm, decides to end the date, telling Alicia, “Maybe we are not right for each other, so respectfully I’m going to drop you off at home.”
Alicia addresses the camera and asks: “Ladies can you believe this?”
Online reactions: Who’s in the wrong?
The video quickly went viral and sparked debate a mongh viewers. while, Alicia’s response to Jay’s decision sparked controversy in the TikTok comments section. Many users sided with Jay, stating that he was respectful and patient throughout the encounter.
One user said “She couldn’t even respect his time. He was respectful, had an itinerary, was on time, AND STILL had this conversation with her.”
A second wrote: He communicated properly, was respectful, and knows his worth. I also love The Cheesecake Factory.
While a third commented: I can’t believe her behavior that was so rude he did the right thing taking her home.
Aother added: She thought he was a simp. And he was going to take her out and spend and he was dealing with it. He told her he didn’t feel appreciated but she was recording him the entire time.
Someone else said: It’s a first date. With that attitude you’re lucky it wasn’t Applebees.
My husband at the time was 16. We went to McDonald’s after a movie. I highly recommend it. Amother user added.
Alicia reflects on her actions in a follow-up interview
Alicia later reunited with Jay to discuss the incident on *The Truth Factory* with Kevin Wesley. She explained that her refusal to leave the car stemmed from her belief that “a queen doesn’t do that.”
She admitted, “I felt like he didn’t see my value. In that moment, I needed the support of my viewers.”
However, Alicia also realized the error of her ways, acknowledging that she hadn’t considered Jay’s feelings. She clarified, “I wasn’t trying to be malicious or anything. I wasn’t really thinking.”
The viral video and subsequent debate have left many questioning how to navigate expectations and communication on a first date.