Woman criticizes friend's high standards in dating
A Reddit user (OP) has ignited a debate within her friend group after offering blunt advice to her friend, Lola, about her approach to dating.
According to the OP, Lola, a 26-year-old woman, has been unsuccessful in finding a boyfriend despite using various dating apps and unconventional methods like "wearing white everywhere" to attract love.
The OP claims Lola gets approached by men, but her high standards keep her single.
According to OP, Lola's demanding standards are unrealistic expectations.
Lola reportedly seeks a partner who is athletic (frequents the gym), earns a high salary (minimum $100,000), plays a musical instrument, and is tall (at least 6'2").
However, the OP points out, is that Lola herself doesn't meet the criteria she sets. She works part-time, lives with her parents, doesn't prioritize exercise, and has no musical background.
OP advice creates tension for Lola
The OP suggested Lola could improve her chances by focusing on career advancement, exercising regularly, and exploring hobbies she'd like to share with a partner. This advice, however, resulted in a heated argument and tears.
She wrote: 'I told her that if she wants to find a man like that, she should consider applying herself more in her job, going to the gym, and picking up a hobby she wants her partner to have,'
'Otherwise, she could either date a guy that is interested in her as she is, or be comfortable with being single.'
OT''s advice faced significant opposition from users, with some even criticizing OP's viewpoints
Below the post, some, like Lola, felt it was insensitive and judgmental. Others sided with the OP, acknowledging the validity of her suggestions.
One person said: If you’re going to tell people the truth you have to make them laugh or they will kill you. Oscar Wilde
A second wrote: Sounds like a great friend. A true friend tells you the truth.
While a third commented: She's also highlighted a growing universal problem; women's expectations are often so high and massively unrealistic, they more frequently end up childless and alone.
Someone else said: There are an awful lot of women with this over-the-top pedestal that they have placed themselves on.
The truth hurts but you don't do that to your mates. Another added.
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